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Reader round-table — Love
Love_RRTIn our August issue our reader round-table  discuss 'love'

Rumi said, "Your task is not to seek for love but to find all the barriers that you have built withing yourself agaist love"
This round-table presents a diverse range of opinions from an even more diverse group of people on a topic dear to our hearts, indeed central to our well-being.

The architecture of love
Sunday, 01 August 2010 00:00

True IndigoTrue Indigo

What is love? From where does love come? Why is it everywhere? Let’s ask. Let’s be scientists.

Science: Life energy is unique. Of all known forms of energy, be it heat, gamma rays, x-rays, or any other electromagnetic radiation, life energy is unique because it is anti-entropic, that is, all other forms of energy decay, just as a fire eventually burns out. Only life energy organises elemental materials into more highly complex forms and systems. This is very unusual.

Let’s just sit with this for a moment. In the entirety of the known universe, only life energy flows in an opposite direction to entropy. Life energy is anti-entropic, organising, and harmonising. It takes elements such as aluminium, iron, silicon, and manganese and orders them into staggeringly complex forms, such as tigers, trees, people, and birds. This indicates life energy, whatever it is, is a highly creative and intelligent energy form. Life energy is the creative consciousness of the universe.

The opposite of life we call ‘death’, which is not actually death, but only the leaving of life energy – just as turning off a fountain does not create anything new; it only stops the flow of water and results in a change of state we call ‘dry’. If there weren’t life, there wouldn’t be death, just as if there were no water we wouldn’t be able to compare it with dry.

Thesis: Because love exactly replicates the characteristics of life energy, it is apparent that either love is brought in or carried by life energy, or the reverse is true, that life energy is brought in or carried by love. The two are not identical, but inseparable. Love also is a harmonising, organising, coherent energy form. Any emotion or emotional state that moves in the direction of love moves in the direction of life energy.

Any emotion or emotional state that moves in the direction of the opposite of love moves in the direction of death energy, or, toward entropy and chaos. If any emotion carried by love violates this harmony or energetic ordering, then the thesis is false.

Thesis proof: Emotions and emotional states such as courage, joy, bliss, compassion, calm, or happiness feel intuitively pleasant because they are carried by love. These are harmonious, organising, anti-chaotic emotional states, and replicate exactly the characteristics of life energy. Beauty is carried by love. Compassion is carried by love. So is laughter.

Emotions and emotional states such as anxiety, fear, malice, anger, envy, greed, or jealousies feel unpleasant because they are carried upon the disharmony, tendency to chaos, and incoherence characterised by the leaving of life energy known as death. In these emotions, energy flows from a higher to a lower state. Nothing is ever created by these emotions. They do not build or organise. They dissolve and dissipate life force energy.

Emotions or emotional states carried by love exist in higher states of consciousness because they are building, organising, constructive forms of energy. Love moves consciousness in a higher and higher direction. Love is the condition that allows consciousness to increase to higher levels, just as life energy organises elements into higher levels of complexity. Love is the creative consciousness of the universe. Emotions or emotional states that participate in life energy are pleasant because they agree with the organising, coherent intelligence of life itself. Love, as well as life energy, is coherent, and therefore rational.

Love is never a limited resource or a resource of scarcity. In this way too it replicates the continuous outpouring of the creative essence of life energy. The unconditional, continuous outpouring of love is the basis for what is called Christ consciousness, Buddha enlightenment, or Krishna consciousness. This is consciousness consciously purified of death energy. It is a consciousness that contains only love.

Trauma, fear, greed, ingratitude, angst, anxiety, worry, fret, nervousness, chaotic thought streams, loneliness, unworthiness, every imaginable negative product of consciousness is eliminated by simply moving toward love. Every single soul ‘virus’ carried by mankind is inoculated against by moving toward love. Simply moving toward love elevates every situation, every interaction, every result and every effect. The answers are all quite simple in the end. No therapy is required for this movement, no shamanic rituals, no long or arduous donkey ride to guru in mountainous terrain; no chemical adulterants to the brain are necessary. The answers arrive by selecting one cardinal direction to move in life and going where the journey will lead.

True Indigo is the Alaskan author of A Personal Aristocracy: Cultivating the Power of Spiritual Nobility, published by North Atlantic books and distributed in Australia by Brumby Books. He is currently at work on a book on perfection and a second on self-essence transmission.

 
Love or fear?
Sunday, 01 August 2010 00:00

Steve_RaySteve Ray

As human beings, we really only have two choices: love or fear. For most of human history, fear has been the main driver of our survival. It’s helped us to run from wild animals and to stay alert to danger. Now, the times “are a-changing”. We don’t have to choose fear. Mostly, our lives are much more predictable and so fear is less relevant (although, not for everyone of course). If we choose love over fear, then something amazing starts to happen: the world of fear starts to diminish. It begins to dissipate. The old adage that ‘we have nothing to fear except fear itself’ is starting to resonate strongly!

Because we have been choosing fear for so long, it’s a hard habit to break. Out of fear comes greed, hostility, envy, judgement, etc. Ultimately all of these habits have one very significant impact: they continue to keep us as separate beings; separate from each other, from our environment and even divided within ourselves. However, there is an increasingly strong case for the idea that separation does not truly exist in an absolute sense and is only maintained by our ‘commitment’ to the bad habits of the past. The world we are living in with all its division, comes from fear-led approaches. However, if we choose love we can find a way through.

The key to finding love and staying there is through our heart. When we connect to our heart (part of our non-physical being) we also connect to the Source of love which is the Source of our true self. The great infinite formless ‘everything’ that is love can only be experienced fully through the heart because it is the only part of us which can accept and recognise love. For some people that’s as natural as breathing. For others, it takes more discipline. It’s not that it’s difficult, in fact it’s very simple, but we have so many bad habits where parts of us actually WANT to experience NON-love that we make it hard.

When we love each other from our heart then we can begin to experience compassion and generosity as the love that flows into our heart automatically radiates in every direction to every being. We don’t have to DO anything! Love is natural. If we are not feeling loving towards others, it’s because our heart is not opening and we are still choosing the path of fear – and of course, when our heart is not open, we can’t receive love either.

Connecting with our heart doesn’t mean we have to think about it in a conscious way, although that can certainly help. Some people are natural ‘lovers’. They stay positive and they are accepting the help that comes 24/7 from the Source whether they have a conceptual view of this Source or not. For these people it’s much more a natural part of their attitude and being.

As Helen Keller once famously said: “The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt within the heart.

Steve Ray

Co-ordinator, Padmacahaya Victoria

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Mother love
Sunday, 01 August 2010 00:00

Catherine_BorgeaudCatherine Borgeaud

Mum told the family she had stomach cancer. I had dreamed that one day she and I could be affectionate instead of keeping our distance as we always had. Now time was running out, but what could I do when she refused a gentle hand on her shoulder, still intent upon on giving advice and criticism, hardly expressing her emotions?

In this vulnerable time, during Biodanza classes I was nurtured beyond all expectations by sweet feminine energy, discovering and receiving a much needed physical mothering attention. This affection was the seed for compassion for Mum and her limitations, opening my heart in a tender receptivity. In a very short time, her resistances just slipped into a new level of communication and love. I could share things that weighed on my heart, words that she could never listen to before. With great tenderness she said, “Oh darling, I was not aware that this behaviour created such pain for you.” We cried in each other’s arms. Four more beautiful and emotional months passed before her departure and during this time I was blessed to meet the mum I had dreamed of for so long.

Catherine Borgeaud is a certified Biodanza facilitator and instructor sharing the beauty and efficiency of this nurturing way of life created in 1976 by Rolando Toro Araneda, anthropologist and clinical psychologist. Catherine offers Biodanza workshops throughout Australia that are suitable for everyone.

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Looking for love
Sunday, 01 August 2010 00:00
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Emely Flak

The search for true love has enchanted humans for thousands of years. Love and lust are million dollar industries. Romance, desire and passionate pursuit have been themes for countless dramas, theatres, story telling, movies and books. We hear a great deal about finding a ‘soul mate’, leading us to believe that there is a special person out there who can fulfil every one of our needs. This paradigm sets up an ideal of a ‘perfect partner’ who may never materialise.

Ask your friends what their definition of a ‘soul mate’ is. It may be unrealistic to expect one person to fulfil every need we have and share all our interests. Often, a warm, loving relationship needs differences. Accept some weaknesses in others and learn from their strengths. Keep an open mind and welcome the diversity that helps us grow.

Emely Flak is a freelance writer and marriage celebrant, who is currently employed as a change management consultant and corporate facilitator. She writes on a range of issues relating to ancient wisdom, including published articles for various Llewellyn Worldwide Publications. Much of her written work is dedicated to embracing ancient practices for personal empowerment and resilience in the competitive workplace.

In her spare time she is a prolific reader who enjoys spending time with her two children (who are growing up way too fast!) and husband. This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it

 
Love according to Buddha
Sunday, 01 August 2010 00:00

CharlesLingCharles Ling

The Buddha called love a supreme emotion. There are three other supreme emotions and they are compassion, joy with others, and equanimity.

Love has both a near enemy and a far enemy. Attachment coupled with affection is the near enemy of love and it is called a `near enemy’ because it is easily confused with love. The far enemy or obvious enemy is aversion (or ill will).

A simple description of love and attachment in our relationships which may be useful for beginners is as follows. Love is the wish that others be happy. Attachment is the wish that others make us happy.

For most of us, our relationship with others contains a mixture of love and attachment. We need to increase love and decrease attachment. To have a mind clear enough to see the distinction is of course important.

At a more advanced level, love is the realisation that we are not isolated, separate beings. Most of us believe that the isolating ego is the ultimate reality and who we really are. Attachment, of course, comes from this sense of isolation.

 

Charles Ling has been teaching meditation for 14 years. He was authorised to teach by well-known Buddhist nun Ayya Khema who was an adept of the 8 meditative absorptions (jhanas). Charles’ approach based mainly on the Theravada tradition also includes some teachings of the Mahayana tradition. Charles completed a Phd in philosophy at La Trobe University in 1999. He currently teaches in Melbourne’s eastern surburbs and can be contacted at This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it

 
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